A gift for my lady friends who love chocolate!!! Don't say I've never given you anything!

She says, I love chocolate...







Chocolate causes certain endocrine glands to secrete hormones that affect your feelings and behavior by making you happy. Therefore, it counteracts depressions, in turn reducing the stress of depression. Your stress-free life helps you maintain a youthful disposition, both physically and mentally. So, eat lots of chocolate! Elaine Sherman


                                         


Hope you enjoyed!

She says, I remember cutting these out of the newspaper as an adolescent.

Love is
 ...

She says,  So according to the Wikipedia love is unusually difficult to consistently define, interesting. Is it because it very well refers to a variety of different feelings, states and attitudes. After-all, to love me is and could never be the same as she. As your state of mind grows and changes in life so does your requirements of love. Different people bring out different things in others and this is true for all types of love platonic, family and religious love.

 Love is something we all were born in... that emotion, affection, attachment was embedded in you from birth. Who you love romantically is usually a reflection of you.  If love is an emotion/feeling and you are in love with someone who constantly mistreats you, belittles you, cheats on you then what your telling people is exactly how much you value/feel about yourself! They say, you teach people how to treat you...by what you accept. One will only do what you allow and because we all have different emotions, affections and attachment it must be taught but even still just as a children test you by seeing what he/she can do/get away with so do and will adults. The very reason I said CONSTANTLY...we all make mistakes but to forgive doesn't mean that I'm dumb enough to let you run a muck in my life. You can't chop off my foot then call me a traitor or disloyal for hopping away.

She says, her analogy... Searching for that soul mate                 


Your job requirements are different from mine. You submitted an application (exchange numbers) and resume with all of your achievements (first couple conversations), what your looking for and how your past experience would be beneficial in the current position, your job duties, time you started/ended (past or last relationship) and references.

You get an interview (date), you may get hired (another date) or passed (no more communication). If you get hired, the first 90 days you're on probation (best behavior). You may believe this is it for you and perform your tasks to the best of your ability staying with the company for years... going with the changes/ bumps in the road because this is where you want to retire (marriage)...this is your career. Or, it could be that you enjoyed the first year but have been secretly looking for a new job (female/male) because after being there (relationship)  for a year you've realized that it just isn't for you...but your job noticed you slacking, coming in late (hanging out) not performing your duties the same (phone calls, affection/sex, conversation) and fired you before you got the chance to quit... or you quit to start a new job that looked and sound like it was the job for you (new & exciting) but turned out that it may have had some different and better offers but the hours sucked or you just didn't like your new boss (80/20 rule).

Missing your old job but unfortunately you couldn't go back whether it's because of the pride in you or the way you left the company/policy. You have to work (love) to survive...so you keep going and searching for that job/career (husband/wife i.e. souls mate) until you reach your goal or purpose.


She says, Love is work  

Love is a variety of feelings, state and attitude of which all change from time to time... so to love someone is to understand and accept the different feelings, state and attitude one may have. As a mother, daughter, sister, niece, cousin and friend love is something I understand and/or accept with no end... like it or not.

Marriage is suppose to be an unconditional commitment with no end.  What you don't understand you learn to or accept and the things you think you can't accept you compromise and learn to understand- Loyalty-

As a girlfriend/boyfriend in most cases those feelings are different because of intimacy in some cases leading to children which can have you hanging on to someone you may never desire to spend your life with or at least shouldn't. But this form can however end... it's very much conditional depending on ones feelings, state and attitude which aren't always communicated or aren't being communicated truthfully-

When your honest about not just your goal or purpose but that change in your feelings whether it be things just not working or making things more serious... what is or isn't working. You allow one another to be either on the same page or end it.




People, manipulation, lies, selfishness hurt people. Love is a feeling- Can someone love you and hurt you? Absolutely.

I understand how so many can write books on love it's so much you can talk about but I will end it with some favorite quotes!! Love!





"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down." 
- Woody Allen


Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you. 

Wayne Dyer 



Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.
Ann Landers 



Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own... Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy.
Robert A. Heinlein

She says, Woke up this morning with a smile up on my face... had a dream last night that love was here to stay heyyy....Freddie Jackson

Music Therapy

Losing yourself in the right music is an immediate, unconscious and effortless way to reframe from your situation. How many of you have had that break up tape? Whether it's Freddie Jackson singing... Love is just a touch away, Mary Mary singing Walking or Katty Perry singing, I'm wide Awake..whatever your genre of choice may be music can be a sure way to inspire or distract you from any emotional upset.

They report a number of research findings about the immediate psychological and medical benefits of music: increased happiness, less stress, reduced depression symptoms, greater autonomy and increased competence, hope, and optimisms.

What Music soothes your soul and refreshes your spirit?

                                                              



                                         

He says, No one is perfect but pay very little attention to what people are saying, "Watch what they are doing." Perception vs Reality.                             Tyrese Gibson
                                                                  


Men communicate through their actions.
                                                                  Chey B
                                                      

She says, These are words from a man ladies...take heed!

If what he's saying doesn't add up with what he is doing then it's time to start subtracting!

Fallow words depecting love isn't the same as heartfelt actions displaying it.
                                                                        Mostegall
                                                                            

As a fatherless woman who has held on to the words... "I love you" not being followed through with actions. I've found myself doing the same in some of my personal relationships with men. Understanding> When you know better you do better!!

She says, to like and or love me cannot only be displayed in your words. I'm watching what your doing...

She says, Your direction is more important than your position.
                                                 Ralph Marston


                    



Loving yourself means accepting your strengths and weaknesses, and working on building and correcting what needs to be done.                         Iyanla Vanzant

There was a period in my life when I was ashamed of my weaknesses and certain situations in my life so much that it was all i thought and talked about...  before I knew it, I was surrounded with more issues and created more weaknesses for my self.

She says, Things will change when your desire to move on...exceeds your desire to hold on!

 That saying, "you can speak and think things into existence." Is true, both positive and negative things... so be very careful of your thoughts and the things you say. For you may very well be the reason why your weaknesses are overbearing your strengths!

"Never put into your thinking what you don't want to materialize."
                                        Oprah Winfrey

Protect your thoughts!!!



                                                  

She says, I can't speak for every woman but I am what some may call a Hopeless Romantic! Im positive I'm not alone!
Is your wife, woman or lady of interest one too? Is so, this post is for you! Even if she isn't she will surely appreciate these things as well!    
                                                 

Note: Don't confuse romance with materialism. Hopeless romantics can be low-maintenance dates/partners. Instead of needing to wow them with expensive gifts, dinners, and vacations, you can please them with gestures that are less expensive. Taking late-night walks, cooking a fancy dinner at home, and writing love letters are just a few things you can do to keep your hopelessly romantic partner happy without breaking the bank.


Where are my creative men who understands a woman who lives for romance? Those little things i referred to below are sure ways to spice up the romance gentlemen.

Don't believe me try it. Here are some small gestures that will definitely brighten up her day which in return will benefit you in the long run...or short :)

Send her flowers to work or home for no reason other than you thinking of her (key words send them) It adds just a little more thought behind it.
                                                             

                
For those just trying to pursue one... Have the card say your secret admirer...or will you go out with me. May sound corny but it works. You want to stand out and make her think about You by doing something the next guy probably isn't doing.


                                                       
Couples with children and tight schedules or finances ...switch things up and prepare her a bath for the evening...you cook and put the kids in the bed while she's relaxing in bubbles. Wanna keep things good..do this a couple days a week or at least once a week. So there wont be too many "im too tired baby" days.
                                                            

Going the extra mile >Once the kids are asleep, lay your favorite dress out for her to slip on. Put on something nice for her and add her favorite cologne on that she likes.  Light some candles, set the table and have a romantic candle light dinner at home. Play some Teddy Pendagrass and slow dance in your living room... Just wait and see how long it takes to turn off the lights...and get a lil closer!
                                                                  
Wanna change the scenery? Don't just go to the show or out to eat and then get a nice room. Talk with her friends and see what she likes. Have an evening planned out. (key word; planned). Don't ask her, what would she like to do? ...surprise her and already have the evening planned. Examples: A limo ride through the city while  sipping on some champagne or a carriage ride. Wow her now...and trust that you will be wowed in the end. :)
                                                                  

Some of you men might already be doing just fine in this area...and if that's the case then GREAT! For those of you who aren't... You do not have to see the world as a hopeless romantic does in order to relate to one. Your perception--as well as theirs--has merit, and is worthy of your appreciation and attention.

Women if not already... these things can also be done for him. There are few but definitely some men who are Hopeless Romantic as well.  Replace the flowers with a surprise lunch to his work..you can take it to him or get it delivered... everything above can be done for him as well.

Remember the essence of romance is doing something that you would not normally do, simply because you care. You may never buy a bunch of flowers for yourself, and that's exactly what makes it special. The recipient knows you did it just to show you care, and for no other reason.


She says, I'm no expert but...If you are and/or with someone who is captivated by love stories, candlelight dinners, and old-fashioned chivalry...and you and your significant other have very different ideas of what romance should be, but this  can help you two come to terms with your differences...

She says, Every now and then I pop in a good old stand-up to brighten up my day.

Below are a few quotes from some of my favorite comedians and underneath them are names and photos. Can you match the comedian with their quote? Let's see who knows there comedy. Have fun!

                                          Match That Quote!!!



1.) I DON'T have EX's! I have Y's. Like 'Y the hell did I date you?!'

2.) Some of yall ladies is looking for an 100% good nigga, and I had a meeting with all these niggas in attendance tonight and established that there is no such a nigga. So stop looking for him. Some of yall had a 98% nigga and yall got rid of him for 2% now you siting next to a 71% nigga hoping he upgrade.

3.) It ain't your beauty...it's your booty  

4.) Man, it's hot. I'm sweating like R. Kelly at a Girl Scout meeting

5.) You used to be looking good from afar. Now you just FAR from looking GOOD

6.) I will fuck a kid up. When a kid gets one-years-old, I believe you got the right to hit him in either the throat or the stomach. If you grown enough to talk back, you grown enough to get fucked up!


7.) Terrorists don't take black hostages. That's the truth. I have yet to see one of us on the news reading a hostage letter. Like, 'Uh...they is treatin us good. Uh we are chillin and shit. I'd like to give a shout out to Ray-Ray an Big Steve and uh, send some Newports

 8.) Never in history did you hear about 17 or 18 of us gettin' killed nowhere altoghether. 'Cuz we run. We run when somebody else runs. We don't ask no questions why we runnin', we just get our ass up and start damn running.

 9.) I want my money back because the way my bank account is set up...I got a checking & savings....




Martin Lawrence       



Dave Chappelle      


Cedric the Entertainer   


Mike Epps   


Bernie Mac        



Kevin Hart  



Gary Owens        






Katt Williams   


She says, Laughter is good for the soul....

Can you match that quote?
If you notice that there are 9 quotes and 8 comedians it's because 2 quotes belong to the same comedian. Do you know which one it is?

She says,  a poem I wrote                                                         November 12, 2012

                                                  "Unconditional Love"       

Guide me, protect me, show me the way....Is that too much to ask for from the man that made me? Hey! Did you know that every father figure I had looked at me in a way, that was impermissable and that I got taken away???

8yrs. old in court pleading my case...sleeping with a bat by the side of the bed..Screaming, GET THE HELL OUT MY FACE!!!! 2 different father figures in my life...while you were out there searching for a wife!!!

Did you ever stop and think about being a dad...to the only child you ever had? The only woman who could ever love you unconditionally is that little girl you gave life to...Me.

Use to be unsure if I would ever truly know how to love...cause the man to show me choose drugs...But then a gift from the man above...came in the form I call a bundle of love...and everyday until I die...I will make sure he will be... everything you weren't to me...No lie. The first man to love me unconditional...Is a man I can't even see...he's unpredictable!

  Thank you Lord for giving me this gift.... this is "Unconditional Love" at its Bliss!!!
                                                          
                                                    
    


She says,  I truly love my dad but I am scarred from my past... As an adult I understand that we all make mistakes and as long as you and I are alive it's never to late. I know he loves me...but as the saying goes...Action speaks louder than words...It's time you show!

Snaps....