She says, I remember cutting these out of the newspaper as an adolescent.

Love is
 ...

She says,  So according to the Wikipedia love is unusually difficult to consistently define, interesting. Is it because it very well refers to a variety of different feelings, states and attitudes. After-all, to love me is and could never be the same as she. As your state of mind grows and changes in life so does your requirements of love. Different people bring out different things in others and this is true for all types of love platonic, family and religious love.

 Love is something we all were born in... that emotion, affection, attachment was embedded in you from birth. Who you love romantically is usually a reflection of you.  If love is an emotion/feeling and you are in love with someone who constantly mistreats you, belittles you, cheats on you then what your telling people is exactly how much you value/feel about yourself! They say, you teach people how to treat you...by what you accept. One will only do what you allow and because we all have different emotions, affections and attachment it must be taught but even still just as a children test you by seeing what he/she can do/get away with so do and will adults. The very reason I said CONSTANTLY...we all make mistakes but to forgive doesn't mean that I'm dumb enough to let you run a muck in my life. You can't chop off my foot then call me a traitor or disloyal for hopping away.

She says, her analogy... Searching for that soul mate                 


Your job requirements are different from mine. You submitted an application (exchange numbers) and resume with all of your achievements (first couple conversations), what your looking for and how your past experience would be beneficial in the current position, your job duties, time you started/ended (past or last relationship) and references.

You get an interview (date), you may get hired (another date) or passed (no more communication). If you get hired, the first 90 days you're on probation (best behavior). You may believe this is it for you and perform your tasks to the best of your ability staying with the company for years... going with the changes/ bumps in the road because this is where you want to retire (marriage)...this is your career. Or, it could be that you enjoyed the first year but have been secretly looking for a new job (female/male) because after being there (relationship)  for a year you've realized that it just isn't for you...but your job noticed you slacking, coming in late (hanging out) not performing your duties the same (phone calls, affection/sex, conversation) and fired you before you got the chance to quit... or you quit to start a new job that looked and sound like it was the job for you (new & exciting) but turned out that it may have had some different and better offers but the hours sucked or you just didn't like your new boss (80/20 rule).

Missing your old job but unfortunately you couldn't go back whether it's because of the pride in you or the way you left the company/policy. You have to work (love) to survive...so you keep going and searching for that job/career (husband/wife i.e. souls mate) until you reach your goal or purpose.


She says, Love is work  

Love is a variety of feelings, state and attitude of which all change from time to time... so to love someone is to understand and accept the different feelings, state and attitude one may have. As a mother, daughter, sister, niece, cousin and friend love is something I understand and/or accept with no end... like it or not.

Marriage is suppose to be an unconditional commitment with no end.  What you don't understand you learn to or accept and the things you think you can't accept you compromise and learn to understand- Loyalty-

As a girlfriend/boyfriend in most cases those feelings are different because of intimacy in some cases leading to children which can have you hanging on to someone you may never desire to spend your life with or at least shouldn't. But this form can however end... it's very much conditional depending on ones feelings, state and attitude which aren't always communicated or aren't being communicated truthfully-

When your honest about not just your goal or purpose but that change in your feelings whether it be things just not working or making things more serious... what is or isn't working. You allow one another to be either on the same page or end it.




People, manipulation, lies, selfishness hurt people. Love is a feeling- Can someone love you and hurt you? Absolutely.

I understand how so many can write books on love it's so much you can talk about but I will end it with some favorite quotes!! Love!





"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down." 
- Woody Allen


Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you. 

Wayne Dyer 



Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses.
Ann Landers 



Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own... Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy.
Robert A. Heinlein